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What to Expect When Your Friend is Suddenly No Longer Expecting

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Nine months has passed. The dust has settled on our lives a little bit and we are starting to comprehend everything we have been through and experienced and it's on my heart to start to share what has been helpful and what has not been helpful. My hope is that this will help people help their friends and give them a little peak into what life for those of us who have been through this loss experience as we move through our grief.  I get a message every single day from someone who has a friend who is suffering the loss of an infant or late term pregnancy and their question is almost always a panicked, "How can I help them?!" My intent is to use this blog as my platform to offer you advice on how to help your own friends.  First of all, if you are one of those friends, thank you. It's so much easier to walk away from this type of thing. Diving right in there and sitting with your friend in their grief is a beautiful, special place to be.  With that being said, her...

It's Coming! Shaun Week Starts June 12th!

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Maybe you've been hearing the whispers..... Is Shaun T LEAVING Beachbody?! WELL, now we know that couldn't be farther from the truth. HE'S BACK with 1  week   of butt kicking fitness. Do you love   Shaun   T? Can't get enough of Insanity® and Focus T25®? Now imagine a brand new   week   of workouts organized for one 7-day intensive attack on belly fat and inactivity…the ultimate "sweat for your life!" workout. Introducing - " Shaun Week ." Shaun   Week  is coming exclusively to Beachbody On Demand on June 12th. No fancy editing and graphics, no gimmicks. What you see is what you get.  Shaun  uncensored. If you want 1  week  of to challenge yourself and get back on track, this is it. Each workout is between 25-40 minutes in length. Perfect for those of us who are BUSY. (Is there anyone who isn't?!) What is  Shaun   Week ? •  Shaun   Week  is a 7-day intensive full body boot camp developed b...

NOW ENROLLING: 5/22 "Sweet Revenge" Accountability Group!

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It's 3pm and it hits you. The cravings. You start digging through your desk drawer for a Hersey Kiss or twizzler. Just one little piece of candy won't hurt! It won't derail you from your goals!  TRUE. But, when we consistently reach for the candy stash every day, well, those decisions compound, my friend. And little by little, your pants are too tight, the scale keeps tipping upward, you get more and more tired, and all the hard work you put in at the gym seems to be for nothing.  Does this sound like you? It sure as heck sounds like me! My team and I have come up with the theme for our next Challenge Group starting prep week on Monday, May 22nd: SWEET REVENGE. Take control of your cravings, for good. Lose the weight that has been hanging on for far too long. Get SWEET REVENGE on your cravings and those people who said you couldn't or wouldn't ever do it.  Sounds great, but what in the actual heck is a Challenge Group?! Simple. It's a health a...

To my sweet friend with a baby on the way....

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I didn't realize how quickly our loss would put me into a category where certain situations were just.... awkward. A couple of weeks after we shared with the world that our sweet Francesca Joy was born sleeping, it happened for the first time. It was one of my friend's birthday. I had it written on my calendar, so I went to send her a message on Facebook saying happy birthday, but I realized we were no longer friends. Confused, I went to her wall and searched. We were just talking the week everything happened? Did I say something wrong? Did I offend her? But, there it was. Just a few days after we announced our loss, she announced her news that she was expecting. I still sent her a message. I said happy birthday and that I just saw her news and I was so happy for her. I didn't hear back from her and so I began to think that maybe she was feeling a couple of ways: 1. Guilty  2. Scared  So, I am writing this blog post in order to help myself and MAYBE other Momma...

FJM: Detoured

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I was an hour from home and there it was. A giant yellow flashing sign that said ROAD CLOSED AHEAD, DETOUR. I wanted to scream. I had been in the car for seven hours already and the last thing I had the patience for was a detour. As much as I was enjoying listening to the audio book of The Magnolia Story by Joanna and Chip Gaines, I just wanted to be home. Tears started to well up for about the tenth time on this journey, but I gripped the wheel and continued on. I would be home eventually.  As I took the detour, I know you must have been watching me upset. I was so tired as I just spent the weekend honoring you and that takes an emotional toll on your Momma. Sometimes, I feel like your name is all I have. I put all of my energy into speaking your name with grace. I get so angry about the mere twelve hours I got to spend with you and I get even angrier at myself for not loving on you as much as I feel I should have while you were in my belly. The anger with myself is what ...

Whole30: Why, What, How, & RESULTS!

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Gosh, I cannot believe I am even writing this! I finished my Whole 30 journey this past week, but it feels like I literally just started it yesterday... without all of the first week symptoms. I wanted to take some time to not only share HOW I went about this journey, but WHY. I know there are people out there who could potentially relate, so here I won't spare ANY details. WHY? This is a major question people ask. WHY WOULD YOU DO THIS TO YOURSELF?! Seems to be the common theme. Well, here's why: 1. Hormones. Before I became pregnant with Frankie, we were advised that I should do an elimination diet. Certain foods can trigger certain hormones and not allow certain natural things to happen. We were testing out fine as far as fertility goes, so, I figured, what do we have to lose?! I started by cutting out gluten and within a couple of months, we were expecting :) SO, I pretty much am aware that my hormones ARE in fact affected by foods. After giving birth, it's totall...

FJM: Your Best Friend's Baptism Day

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Good morning, sweet girl! Today is a very special day. Today, your best friend, Ezzy, is being Baptized. We know you know all of this already, but I want to tell you all about what today was like here for us on Earth. Your perspective was probably much more exciting and I can't wait to hear about it one day. So, let me take you back to a few days ago. I saw that nice lady that helps me sort through the sadness  and confusion I feel from missing you and she helped me to remember and recall YOUR Baptism day. This event was so important for your Daddy & I. We didn't know it then, but as time has gone on, we realize in that moment we handed your soul completely over to God. We know you are His child, we know His son, Jesus, is teaching you to pray and when we worry about you, that thought alone can calm me down. The morning after you were born sleeping, we had your grandparents and your Uncle Paul come back to see you one last time and we planned your Baptism to take plac...